Things A Gentleman Has Just Gotta’ Do


In our opinion, well-groomed gents have just gotta’…

- Say “thanks” when someone holds the door.

- Let people off the elevator before rushing on.

- When calling someone with whom there is no set phone appointment, ask “do you have a minute?” before jumping into that rant/talk.

- Listen and make sure that person says “yes, I have a minute” before launching into that rant/talk.

- Provide a firm handshake always. Not “break his wrist” firm, but no dead fish.

- If asking someone “how are you?” — being prepared and ready to listen with actual attention.

- Avoid sporting a uni-brow, comb-over, or excess nose or ear hair.

- Be pleasant and polite to service staff no matter the venue. Issues can be addressed, but there are ways to do it with dignity and without demeaning someone.

- Wear a bow tie once in awhile.

- Write handwritten notes and send them through the mail (of course, to someone they know or are trying to get to know).

- Make sure to “take it” as good as you “dish it out.”

- Tell the truth — that way nothing really has to be remembered.

- Take off that blue tooth head seat if it’s not in use.

- Un-clip any mobile technology strapped to belts.

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- Know when others are sick of reading your list…. (we’re done)

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  1. Dennis Hayden
    Posted November 17, 2010 at 9:05 AM | Permalink

    Oh, how very true all these statements are. I raised my son (now 26) with a lot of these items. When I was growing up they were called “manners”. Keep up the good work. Enjoy reading the posts.

  2. Posted November 22, 2010 at 3:01 PM | Permalink

    Society has lost many of these values. I especially love the Blue Tooth remark. I see this all the time and it’s very rude and annoying. It’s time that men become gentlemen again.

  3. Posted December 3, 2010 at 2:09 PM | Permalink

    Indeed, this should be the actions of a gentleman… courteous, polite and appreciative.If all men can act upon these set of examples, then the world will be a better place. And women will love us more, in addition. ;-)

  4. Cape Chris
    Posted December 9, 2010 at 10:04 AM | Permalink

    Love all the rules, especially the ode to Mark Twain on lying. I keep George Washington’s Rule’s to Civility on the coffee table and thumb through every now and then. It’s amazing to notice how few of the actual manners are followed to the average guy. Why don’t men stand upon arrival of new guests into the room/table and shake their hands anymore? They sit there and smile at best . . .

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    Michael Gilman is Founder of The Grooming Lounge, the country's premiere destination for men's grooming products, services and advice. In this blog he'll talk about his business, customer service, the gentlemanly arts and whatever is currently bothering him.

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